Monday, March 19, 2007

mr and mrs


Two good friends got married at the gorgeous, old Lord Leycester Hospital building in Warwick on Saturday. Strangely, for somebody who was invited to 14 weddings last year alone (I kid you not) this was the first 'non church' wedding ceremony I'd been to.

The bride, Danny, looked stunning in scarlet. We ate Indian sweets, samosas and curry followed by mango ice cream, then danced to a juke box. I had been asked to read a couple of poems during the ceremony, which was a privilege but surprisingly scary. I'd have been fine with a bible.....

Danny and Alex have really been married for ages. They've been together ten years. It was fantastic to see them declare their commitment in the presence of people they love. I got so far into the sense of celebration that I had to hold my tongue to prevent the occasional 'amen' squeaking out. You can take the girl out of the church.......

Very good indeed. Congratulations, guys!

And, as always, it was great to catch up with friends in Leamington. Lovely, lovely friendies.

PS - One bizarre thing about civil marriagies is that there can be no mention whatsoever of relgion or God. I had, until Saturday, blamed this on militant secularists. But it turns out that the church requested it be so. Very, very worrying........

6 comments:

Phil said...

I remember speaking to the registrar when I was planning my (civil) wedding and being amazed just how far the no-mention-of-religion rule went. It even applies to the music before the ceremony. The registrar told me that gospel choirs were not allowed, and that he'd recently had to interrupt one wedding because the bride wanted to walk down the aisle to Angels by Robbie Williams (which is clearly a deeply religous song...).

Sorry we didn't get to see each other last week. It was all very hectic, and then my phone decided that this was a good time to stop functioning. Next time...

Lucy said...

One of the lovliest weddings I have ever been to was neither civil nor religious!

The couple were already married (small wedding with family abroad) and this was a wedding blessing. As such there was no need for anything official and so my mum did the "ceremony". Completely personal and unique to them.

That's what I'd do if I got married again...!

Danny said...

Thanks Anna, that was lovely. Glad you didn't let the 'Amen' out - it might have stopped the ceremony! Seriously - what happens if something God-related does accidentally pop out, do they halt the proceedings or pretend it hasn't happened???

Shame I felt too ill to eat the mango ice cream - I'd been looking forward to that one!

Getting married is weird and stressful! Still, at least I wasn't too drunk (which is more than can be said for my siblings).

X

Alex said...

How angry am I about the 'don't mention the Lord' rule? For one thing, the massive arrogance of the church in suggesting they have sole rights to any form of spirituality, as if Christianity had copyrighted not only the word 'God', but also 'prayer', 'holy', 'sacred' etc, makes my blood boil; just because I am not a Christian does not mean I have no concept of God or spirituality. For another, the rule is clearly there only because the political entity of the church is attempting to keep control. How could any true Christian be upset about God being mentioned at a wedding, whether it is held in a church or not?

Danny said...

Calm down dear

anna p said...

While not affected by it enough to be boiling with rage, I am rather perturbed about the 'no religion' rule. I intend to find out more.

Instinct tells me that it must be a product of the bizarre, complex relationship enjoyed by the Church of England and the state. (Other denominations wouldn't really be able to do anything about what happens in civil weddings). But there may be all kinds of legal red tape and historical quirks involved.....I'll post more when I've got to the bottom of it!

Whatever the case, it's true that any church claiming 'ownership' of God is deluded....

(though I don't expect Danny really wanted religion interfering as she got hitched, anyhow!)

Have no idea what the registrar would do if someone did burst out with an amen or similar. It must happen.....maybe we should put Dom Joly up to it by way of experiment?

What a silly little can of worms!